Danuza Aquino, LFT, LMT, Answers
First let me say-congratulations for asking the question! Some partners are not even interested in learning what helps, and the fact that you are is already a big plus! You are probably already doing a lot by just asking! if you ask her, she will tell you exactly what she needs! If this is the first pregnancy, and it seems to have been a difficult one, start by being grateful for it! Do a gratitude prayer talking to the divine and to the child to thank (him/her/them) for coming into your family. Help your wife get the exact type of delivery she wants (natural with midwife, traditional in the hospital or anything in between). Help plan the baby room and whatever she needs to be comfortable during pregnancy and after delivery. Be kind when she is not feeling well and please carry the groceries! :-) Anything that saves her energy, helps her eat healthier and sleep better will do wonders! Whatever helps you connect/love one another and the baby will just be great! It is helpful to maintain light exercise (if she can) during pregnancy in order to maintain flexibility in her joints because the hip will open and change a lot as she grows. You can safely provide some light back and foot massages and foot soaking (in warm water with salts) for relaxation (consult your doctor to be sure it is safe in her case). Congratulations to both!