Sober is grace. Sober is exploring. Sober is discovery. Sober is FREEDOM. Sober is NOT abstinence. It's time for a different conversation!
My relationship with alcohol started with one of my first memories crying for my baby sister when my mom took her off into the night drunk. That would begin my understanding of what alcohol is and how it works; what's okay and what's expected. Shortly after I experienced my first hangover at just five years old. It was Christmas Eve. The holiday jingles were playing on the turntable and the lights were all a glow. Mom's boyfriend brought over a bottle of rum and we played a game. The bigger the present the bigger the drink. I had the biggest present under the tree so I drank. I don't remember much about the evening but I sure remember the pounding headache and bellyache that stuck with me the following morning as I played with my Easy-Bake Oven.
Alcohol misuse, overuse, and abuse were prevalent in our home and extended family my whole life. I witnessed things no child should ever see.
At twelve years old, I realized the numbing benefits of alcohol and would continue to misuse alcohol for more than twenty years.
Long story short, I followed the traditional path of outpatient treatment and then Alcoholics Anonymous and within nine months realized if I wanted to be free of my preoccupation with alcohol I would have to find another way.
In 2003, there were no other options. At least not well known.
So, what I teach now, I have been practicing for over sixteen years.
It's not about the alcohol. It's about you!
I stopped drinking alcohol over seventeen years ago and walked out of AA sixteen years ago.
I have been advocating another way to address alcohol concerns for ten years. I advocate for women because my mother was oppressed by limiting beliefs, half-truths, and outright lies. Many of which she assumed on her own and many that her family and generation insisted on.
She misused and abused alcohol to feel a sense of freedom, some sort of independence. Drinking gave her the courage to say fuck this I stand for me. Only to wake up the next day with a shameover. Unfortunately, this is what many us do.
We have a choice to accept or challenge.
I feel like I have hope for the first time. I hear this almost every time.
It's not about the alcohol, it's about you. We are going to do some exploring to discover what would make life so amazing that you wouldn't want to miss another moment of it uncomfortably numb.