Pamela Joy, M.A.

Sex and Relationship Coach

Down To There

Certified Sex and Relationship Coach

San Jose, CA

Recent Reviews

5.0 of 5 (3)
Pam Costa is the right balance of professionalism and personality. She is engaging, caring but yet still a therapist. I enjoyed our sessions and I found her to be spot on in many of her assessments
We cannot speak highly enough of Pam. She has completely given us a new perspective on our relationship through exercises, asking the right questions, and just by being so easy to talk to. I knew I was so completely in love and committed to my partner, but I just didn't feel that sexual spark or chemistry. We would go months without having sex. Both of us struggled to talk about it and we even began exploring an open relationship to try to "fix" our problems. After only two sessions with Pam, everything changed. We are now having the best sex either of us have ever had, and I feel such a closeness and attachment that I've never experienced with anyone before. Pam has made what felt impossible, possible. Talking to her also doesn't feel like a talking to a therapist. She feels like a friend. She offers up her own personal sexual experiences and things that have worked and failed in her own marriage. Plus you visit her in such a serene, comfy space and sit on her couch together, it's not a stuffy clinical office you're going to. In fact, Pam spent years working in tech at Google and Apple so while she possesses all the knowledge and terminology to talk about sexuality, it never feels "clinical." My partner and I now get so giddy and excited on the days we have a session scheduled with Pam. Trust me, you will not regret seeing her. She's a total game changer.
Pam is AMAZING at what she does. A talented sex coach and speaker, I've booked her for a couple of sessions for the moms group I belong to and she blew everyone away. Not only did she make everyone feel comfortable, she also got people to open up, to share without judgment and to consider things they hadn't before. She took questions, answered them thoughtfully and professionally, led a brilliant meditation, provided resources, was funny and left everyone wanting more sessions! Even people who didn't think they'd ever want or need sex coaching came out of the session thinking they might give it a try. If you're looking for someone knowledgeable, approachable, and top notch at sex therapy, give Pam a call. I highly recommend her.

License, Credentials & Experience

Pamela Joy, M.A. has been helping people for 7 years
Certified Somatica® Sex and Relationship Coach (CSC)
Somatica Institute

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Sexual Difficulty/Dysfunction
Relationship Issues
Sex Therapy

Practice Locations & Hours


San Jose
San Jose CA 95125, United States
Wed: 9:00 AM - 6:00 PM
Thu: 9:00 AM - 6:00 PM

Learn More About Pamela Joy, M.A.

About me

I left my high-tech career at Apple and Facebook to found Down To There® to help the world talk more openly about sex and intimacy.

Through my writing, coaching and speaking, I work collaboratively and experientially with clients to increase their capacity for emotional and physical intimacy.

My TEDx talk “Reclaiming Female Sexual Desire” has over 1M views and celebrates the positive impact of peer support on sexual health.


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Individuals
Couples
Ages works with
Adults
Seniors

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Pamela Joy Reviews

5.0 of 5 (3)
Pam Costa is the right balance of professionalism and personality. She is engaging, caring but yet still a therapist. I enjoyed our sessions and I found her to be spot on in many of her assessments
We cannot speak highly enough of Pam. She has completely given us a new perspective on our relationship through exercises, asking the right questions, and just by being so easy to talk to. I knew I was so completely in love and committed to my partner, but I just didn't feel that sexual spark or chemistry. We would go months without having sex. Both of us struggled to talk about it and we even began exploring an open relationship to try to "fix" our problems. After only two sessions with Pam, everything changed. We are now having the best sex either of us have ever had, and I feel such a closeness and attachment that I've never experienced with anyone before. Pam has made what felt impossible, possible. Talking to her also doesn't feel like a talking to a therapist. She feels like a friend. She offers up her own personal sexual experiences and things that have worked and failed in her own marriage. Plus you visit her in such a serene, comfy space and sit on her couch together, it's not a stuffy clinical office you're going to. In fact, Pam spent years working in tech at Google and Apple so while she possesses all the knowledge and terminology to talk about sexuality, it never feels "clinical." My partner and I now get so giddy and excited on the days we have a session scheduled with Pam. Trust me, you will not regret seeing her. She's a total game changer.
Pam is AMAZING at what she does. A talented sex coach and speaker, I've booked her for a couple of sessions for the moms group I belong to and she blew everyone away. Not only did she make everyone feel comfortable, she also got people to open up, to share without judgment and to consider things they hadn't before. She took questions, answered them thoughtfully and professionally, led a brilliant meditation, provided resources, was funny and left everyone wanting more sessions! Even people who didn't think they'd ever want or need sex coaching came out of the session thinking they might give it a try. If you're looking for someone knowledgeable, approachable, and top notch at sex therapy, give Pam a call. I highly recommend her.





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