How do I say in the moment, my head seems to be a day ahead of me? I feel i need to slow it down. -

How do I say in the moment, my head seems to be a day ahead of me? I feel i need to slow it down.

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Kerri Lake
Intuitive Self-Awareness - Feel your presence. Live through the heart. Generate Harmony

Minds often think they have to have all the answers themselves. They race, trying to satisfy an egoic suggestion like, "I have to be... I should have been... If things don't go this way then..." The mind needs a job. It LOVES a job! And without providing the mind with a job that actually serves you, it will look to whomever is offering the ego.

So, you can, if you wish, begin to take command of your mind and provide it the job of being aware of, or watching, the body.

The body is the mind's ally. It is the aspect of you that is never in the future and never in the past. The body has mastered the "present moment." So, the body.

The body communicates through sensations. The mind's job is to recognize and interpret those sensations. The mind thinks it's feeling...but that is still thinking. It is the body that feels. So, the body.

Your awareness is a catalyst of movement. When you take command of your awareness and give your mind the job of watching your wrist, for example, your awareness in your wrist will catalyze movement of energy. The body feels movement and communicates that feeling through sensations that the mind can interpret as "movement in my wrist." But the mind can't think it into happening, it needs to bring its awareness to the body. Mind, watch the body.

The priority here is to be aware of that energy, your life force, making itself evident through the body. Begin with your wrist to help the mind get familiar with what we're doing, familiar with the presence of feel in the body. Then, we can move awareness to the heart-center.

Mind, watch the body. Heart-center, open. Give your mind the job of noticing the sensations when you invoke your heart-center with awareness of the body. This is generating the innate connection of our living systems, the foundation behind mindfulness. When the mind has an appropriate job to do, it quiets itself right down! But because there is a habit of being distracted and hijacked, it can take some experiences, even just ten seconds at a time, being aware of the physicality before the mind begins to really see that "slow" is even a safe thing to do.

Ten seconds at a time, mind, watch the body. Start with a wrist. Play with the heart-center. The priority is for the mind to be aware of the body. It's great to play with this when you lay down to sleep. The body loves to sleep with the mind happily watching.

As you become more familiar with how simple yet profound this is, you begin to get creative with your awareness, you become more clear with your intuition and all of your systems become healthier. This is the foundation of integrating your higher consciousness into and through your physical world. It's all about bringing forward the presence of your heart in a way that the mind not only allows but begins to create space for. It's the gentlest, most inviting way I know to guide a busy mind into a different way of being.

Denice Garrou
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Heart focused breathing, through the heart area and bringing in the feeling of ease and appreciation is the first technique of HeartMath. Simple yet it works with daily practice. We need to learn to synchronize the brain and heart. We live in our head and out of balance with our heart. The heart has its own central nervous system and brain and actually talks more to the brain than the other way around. When we are not in sync the brain chatter trumps our heart. People like this are in sympathetic mode burning excessive energy and draining our vital energy reserves. Think of the animals in the wild who can graze next to the lounging lion. They can regulate their sympathetic response and go right back into parasympathetic mode when they know the lions are once again fed. As humans we lost that ability are are always running on high..we are always running from the subconscious self which is nothing but a recording the plays over and over again until we have learned to override that and create a new "recording", DOing doing Heartmath techniques or one way to reprogram. They are a form of meditation but the feelings of ease actually can stay with us for hours through the day. We learn how to recognize the draining and chatter triggers and our body soon learns how to turn it around. Simple explanation for a long line of techniques that are available. :)

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To avoid worrying about the future, focus on the present (savoring).
Often, we're so trapped in thoughts of the future or the past that we forget to experience, let alone enjoy, what's happening right now. Trust in the process of time, you're meant to be available right now. Be deliberate and intentional about what you do. If you're driving, drive with intent...look around notice what you're touching, the smells, the sights... The flip side of worrying is ruminating, thinking bleakly about events in the past. And again, if you press your focus into the now, rumination ceases. Savoring forces you into the present, so you can't worry about things that aren't there.

To make the most of time, lose track of it (flow).
Flow occurs when you're so engrossed in a task that you lose track of everything else around you. Flow embodies an apparent paradox: How can you be living in the moment if you're not even aware of the moment?
Flow is an elusive state. As with romance or sleep, you can't just will yourself into it—all you can do is set the stage, creating the optimal conditions for it to occur.
The first requirement for flow is to set a goal that's challenging but not unattainable. The task should be matched to your ability level—not so difficult that you'll feel stressed, but not so easy that you'll get bored. In flow, you're firing on all cylinders to rise to a challenge.

If something is bothering you, move toward it rather than away from it (acceptance). We forget pain is an emotion, just as happiness is and will occur just as frequently. The mind's natural tendency when faced with pain is to attempt to avoid it—by trying to resist unpleasant thoughts, feelings, and sensations. But in many cases, negative feelings and situations can't be avoided—and resisting them only magnifies the pain. Acceptance of an unpleasant state doesn't mean you don't have goals for the future. It just means you accept that certain things are beyond your control. The sadness, stress, pain, or anger is there whether you like it or not. Better to embrace the feeling as it is.

You don't always have to be doing something, just sit there (breathe).
Mindfulness is the only intentional, systematic activity that is not about trying to improve yourself or get anywhere else, it is simply a matter of realizing where you already are. You can become mindful at any moment just by paying attention to your immediate experience. You can do it right now. What's happening this instant? Here's the most fundamental paradox of all: Mindfulness isn't a goal, because goals are about the future, but you do have to set the intention of paying attention to what's happening at the present moment. As you read the words printed on this page, as your eyes distinguish the black squiggles on white paper, as you feel gravity anchoring you to the planet, wake up. Become aware of being alive. And breathe. As you draw your next breath, focus on the rise of your abdomen on the in-breath, the stream of heat through your nostrils on the out-breath. If you're aware of that feeling right now, as you're reading this, you're living in the moment. Nothing happens next. It's not a destination. This is it. You're already there...

Wishing you moments of peace :)

River Benson
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Breathe, Notice when your mind wanders or tells stories, Relax, Notice that you are relaxed, Breathe, Repeat as often as you can remember to notice. It becomes a way of life and is the path to letting Life live THROUGH you. There are multiple layers to this but this is the way to start being centered in the moment.

Neil Hall

The Bowen Technique can help your Autonomic Nervous System to normalize as it is very relaxing and helps the bodies healing abilities to work more effective. You can locate a Bowenwork Practitioner in your area by going to and clicking on Find Practitioner.

Margie Farias
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All of these suggestions are worthy. Living in this culture lends itself to being anywhere besides the moment. So you are NOT alone. Its the norm. You may need to find or start a meditation group, so you hold yourself to that discipline. You may need to have some facilitation in reaching that place of peace and quiet. That place is our parasympathetic nervous system. Briefly, I will just say that there is no other therapy that can take you there more consistently and quicker than Craniosacral Therapy. Good luck!!

Licensed Psychologist in California, Health & Behavior Coach

Starting a daily meditation and journaling practice really helps the brain get into the right Headspace. Going out in nature for a brisk walk while you are observing nature around you in a child-like inquisitive manner. Maybe even look for cool stuff to take pictures of.

Alyse Rothenberg
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I know how that feels and have been there. To help you keep present, focus on your breathing, notice how your body feels, stay present in how you think, "my hand are on the steering wheel." "I am walking down the hall." Closing your eyes and taking deep breaths. There are several other things you can do. Mindfullness is powerful and am happy to help. A great book is the Power of Now by Ekhart Tolle

Wayne Forrest

Hi Jim
I was once the same with my thoughts and through the principles of dream building that I teach I have an understanding of my thinking and where that comes from. It is about connecting with the true you and learning to create a new powerful pattern of thinking. I have changed a lot of my patterns of thought that no longer was useful. Have a great day and I hope you find your answer.

Danielle Camastra

HI. I feel your pain and understand. I struggled with this issue most of my life (and my ADD did not help). There's tremendous research showing that meditation is a fantastic way to practice "being present". Try starting with scheduling 1 minute a day to just sit quietly and focus on your breath; paying attention to the breath moving in and out. Don't force it. Just breathe. Remind yourself you have nothing to do or nowhere to go for this one minute. And if your mind wonders off, just gently bring it back to the breath. Slowing work up to 5, 8, 15 minutes a day, if possible.
However, that may be challenging if you're the go-go-go type. Some people do better with a guided process, like a guided meditation or a writing process. There are many fantastic apps that can help. I use "Uplifter" and " Simple Habit" but there are a plethora of apps online.
Additionally, you can try just being mindful, or journaling 3 simple things to be grateful for today. You can do that while brushing your teeth or driving to work. Gratitude is the antidote for anxiety and depression. One last suggestion (borrowed from Tony Robbins) is called Priming. (and by all means, feel free to look it up, youtube or google it). Again, you have to alot for a few minutes a day to sit quietly, and during that time think of 3 things for about 1 minute each, of moments that your were grateful for. Something that you could immediately go right back to and feel what it was like in that moment. Anything from your child being born, or being notified of getting your dream job, or sitting in your new car for the first time, perhaps having the first kiss with your partner, etc. Sit in the moment and "feel it". There's no wrong or right way to do it. Just remember, whatever you choose, it's most important to be kind to yourself. Good luck. Sending you positive energy.

Dana Engdahl
Transformation of your negative energies can move you into endless positive possibilities.

I agree with Linda above. You may have an negative emotional energy that is causing you to feel this way. Also, an energetic imbalance somewhere in your body such as one of your nervous systems like the Sympathetic Nervous System (responsible for fight or flight) may need to be balanced. Please do take time to meditate and bring yourself to 'present' daily. Would love to be of help if I can!

Linda Anzelc Huitt
My mission is to support my clients in restoring their joy and empowerment. I serve clients internationally through coaching, energy clearing, empathetic readings, and training.

First of all, release any self-judgement about being "ungrounded". You may be building up anxiety about your anxiety... it can be a vicious cycle.

Then allow yourself some time to meditate, even if just for 5 or 10 minutes. Sit comfortably, close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, scan your body to release any points of tension (e.g. give yourself a little stretch here and there), and then just focus on where your breath is entering and leaving your body. If you are concerned about the time, then set a timer for yourself and then don't worry about the clock.

Once you've taken some time to relax and come back into the moment, give some thought to why you are out of alignment with the moment... what's going on in your life that is perhaps resulting in anxiety?

You might benefit from some energy clearing, or other holistic remedy, depending on the source of your unrest.

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