Monday mornings are notoriously dreaded. Wednesday's are referred to as hump day and then we're sliding into home base, with a 'thanks God it's Friday'.
There are imbalances at a fundamental level that need to be addressed. That's the long term. And you need more immediate relief for the short term. Let's talk about both.
That familiar sense of dread, not looking forward to or even straight up anxiety is all future related. As important as it is to look ahead, when you're coming from an untethered place, it can feel overwhelming. We first need to be grounded in the here and now so that we can feel tethered, anchored and secure.
Breathwork, meditation and yoga are great grounding exercises. However, two of my personal favorites are Orienting from Somatic Experiencing and working with the root chakra.
Orienting is a simple practice you can do anywhere. Simply turn your head to look over your shoulder and allow your eyes to slowly scan everything you can see, while naming each thing. As you see and name, slowly turn your head to take in what's in front of you, then what's on the other side. Try to turn your head as far as you're able over both shoulders so you're getting a 360 view.
This practice is powerful because you are directly communicating with your Autonomic Nervous System (think flight/flight) and telling your system that you are safe. Consider our ancestors from way way back. They lived in far more immediate and actual danger, so our nervous systems evolved accordingly. When they scanned their surroundings like this, they were able to spot danger. No lions or tigers and all's good. If you've ever been drawn to go for a drive to clear your head, this is why. When driving we are mimicking this same thing by scanning the road all around us.
To amp up this exercise even more, take slow deep belly breaths at the same time. This too tells your system you're safe by activating the vagus nerve, which runs near your diaphragm. When there's actual danger, we breath shallowly in our chest, the vagus nerve is not activated and that tells our system there is danger to prepare for. Understanding the biology can empower you to consciously tell your system you are safe, which in turn allows you to be grounded in the present.
The root chakra is all about safety and security. Taking slow, deep belly breathes, breath in and envision a column of light extending from the base of your spine down into the earth. Breathing out, run your attention back up from the earth to the base of your spine. Repeat a few times.
To take this a step further, breathe in, running your minds eye from the base of your spine down into the earth. Then on the out breath, run your attention from the earth, up to the base of your spine, continuing up your spine, noticing each chakra as you pass it and up through your crown, envisioning that column of light extending up to the spirit realm. As you continue breathing in and out, run your attention up and down this light column from the heavens to the earth and back. Now you are more fully connected to all that you are and to the collective consciousness / God / Universe, etc. This bolsters feelings of safety and security even more, allowing you to be present and grounded.
This is the part that is likely most neglected and in need of attention. However, to get here, you need to keep doing your short term work to build capacity.
It is not Monday's that any of us dread. It is what we have to do on Monday's. Life does not have to be drudgery and full of dreadful days. There is another way and on some level, I think you know that.
Once you are in a grounded place more of the time, you build the capacity to be open to more possibility. You begin to access more creativity, curiosity and intuition which are the tools you'll need to reconnect with yourself. It is through the process of reconnection that you will identify ways your life is out of balance with your authentic self, and can begin the journey home to yourself, to your calling and to building your glorious future.
This is the core of my work with clients. Reconnection with yourself brings clarity on your innate strengths and values, supports you in having strong boundaries, truly knowing, accepting and loving yourself, appreciating yourself and the gifts you bring to the world and feeling safe to show up as your true self. Who are you when no one's watching? Imagine having the confidence and self-love to be that always, in every situation and around any person!
What does that have to do with dreading Mondays?
When you are connected and living as your authentic self, you will accept nothing less than greatness. You will learn to dream big and to live those dreams. You learn to make stuff happen, knowing you are living your highest calling.