An important element here is to focus not on what you are doing, but the qualities of character that enable you to do it. Even if the work is unpleasant, you can find success each day in having been the person that you wish to be.
Sleep is another factor. Many of us cheat on sleep during the week and try to catch up on the weekend. That actually doesn't work - it takes weeks to catch up once we fall behind. So your mind may be expecting that, when the work week starts, it is the continuation of a slow decline in your mental powers. (Most sleep-deprived people don't recognize how much their performance suffers - but your brain knows.) If you aren't getting enough sleep during the week, establish a sleep routine until you can get 8 hours a night, and see how that affects your attitude.
The words we use are so important. "I have to go back to work." Even though I love what I do, thinking about my work in that way creates a sense of dread. Don't you think? So, the first step is to understand that you are at choice with going to work. You don't HAVE TO do it. We don't HAVE TO do anything. We get to choose. A concept that I teach my clients is the think/feel/act cycle - that our thoughts create our feelings create our actions. You ask 'what's a better way to feel about Monday mornings' - How do you WANT to feel about Monday mornings? What's the EMOTION that you want to have on Mondays? What do you need to think about your work in order to feel that emotion? Suggestion: I'm choosing to go to work because it helps me to pay my bills.
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When I asked myself this question a few years back, I learned that my work was not in alignment with my values and that I did not allow myself the time to rest and reconnect during the weekend so I would start the week with a "deficit." Therefore, reflecting on why you don't feel great on Monday mornings may help - and keep in mind that some of it may be related to our society/culture telling us to dread Monday mornings. Our mindset about it plays a large role. Reflect on what brings you joy and incorporate more of that in your life, especially if there's something that can be part of your Monday morning routine that you look forward to (such as drinking a favorite tea or taking 15 minutes to read a favorite book). You could also reflect on what it would be like to have an ideal day on Mondays - what would you do? when? how? with whom? And see how you may be able to change your schedule or routine to align more with your values, needs, and desires.
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Sometimes, the quickest way to feel better about something is to allow yourself not to like it. I'm not sure if you like your job but struggle with transitions, or if you really dislike your job. But either way, giving yourself full permission to hate Monday mornings can even bring some humor to it - but it doesn't have to!
If you happen to have a job you don't enjoy, it's easy to feel guilty for not liking it, because so many people don't have a job, or because there are things about it you appreciate. But if you can lift your requirement that you have to feel good about it, then you can just put one foot in front of the other and do what you need to do. You're allowed to respect yourself for overcoming the power of your preferences to take care of yourself and your loved ones. And if it's not an option to change your job - for whatever reason - just be sure you are spending a few hours a week doing something that you do enjoy, so that you can occasionally remind yourself that the work is supporting the parts of your life you DO like.
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Self-talk is by far the topic that is most often discussed in my treatment room. And typically, when the subject comes up, it’s about the things we say to ourselves, about ourselves. However, self-talk is actually a bit bigger than that. Here’s what I mean…
Let’s say that it’s Sunday night and you are getting ready for bed. You’re thinking about how your weekend was, what fun (or not so fun) things you got to do, and how tomorrow is Monday. And Monday means…work. And you say to yourself, “Ugh…I HAVE to go to work tomorrow.”
Well, that certainly doesn’t sound fun. I mean would you ever say, “I HAVE to go out with my friends to my favorite restaurant” or “I HAVE to go get the puppy (or kitty) that I’ve been waiting for”. My guess is probably not. Because using the phrase “have to” implies that you have no choice. It means that you feel as though you are being ordered to do something. Or maybe that you agreed to do something, even though you don’t really want to, and now you’re on the hook. It means that the thing is out of your control. And that feels yucky.
So what happens if instead of lying there in bed on Sunday night, thinking about how you HAVE to go to work, you reframe it into how you GET to go to work. That sounds way better, doesn’t it? The reason is because “getting” to do something implies that you have a choice. It means that you feel as though you are deciding to do something. Or maybe that you agreed to do something, even though you wanted to do it anyway, and now you’re on the hook and you are stoked. It means that the thing is totally in your control. And that feels empowering.
Language matters. Words matter. They matter to us. And they matter to those around us, be it in person, on a Zoom, or even playing a video game while on a headset. Although words may not always be the most effective way to communicate and truly are only a portion of how we communicate (body language, tone, etc. are super important), they are very meaningful and have numerous implications. And one change of a word, such as “have to” versus “get to”, or “my children” instead of “our children”, or maybe even adding or taking away a word, like saying “you’re a jerk” versus “you’re acting like a jerk” all have very different meanings.
So give it a try and see what happens. My guess is that as you work on reframing things into positives, it will be easier to see more positives and maybe even practice a bit more gratitude.
Because you, yes YOU deserve to see your life in a positive way. You, yes YOU deserve to mine your light.