Throughout life, I've faced enough ups and downs to know that sometimes reinventing yourself is not just possible, it's necessary.
Growing up in an emotionally dysfunctional family, I lacked the foundation of what constitutes healthy love and support. This was compounded by childhood neglect, leaving a deeper void in my understanding of love and care. My relationships mirrored this void, leading me into situations of abuse and neglect, further deepening my feelings of worthlessness and despair. The physical manifestation of this turmoil came at the hands of my first husband, whose violent outburst left me with a fractured cheekbone and a severely bruised face.
This abuse served as a chilling reminder of the cycle I was caught in. It was during this difficult time that I experienced a pivotal moment of realization. One day, watching my kids play, so innocent against the backdrop of my own struggles, ignited a strong need for change. I didn't want them to fall into the same toxic patterns. This gave me the strength to leave, aiming for a safer and healthier life for us all.
After leaving my first husband, I spent years alone, dedicating myself to healing and rebuilding. This period of reflection and independence was marked by a significant achievement: buying a house on my own, a testament to my growing confidence and autonomy. As I began to feel stronger, I allowed myself to be open to love again, leading to my marriage with my second husband. He seemed to be everything I had hoped for—stable, hardworking, and free from the vices that had tarnished my first marriage. However, beneath the surface, he too was struggling with unresolved traumas from his childhood and a previous marriage.
Our lack of healing and coping skills soon became evident as we found it challenging to navigate life's hurdles together. His infidelity and eventual departure left me devastated, especially as it happened during a time already burdened with personal hardships: his custody battle, my mother's illness, and my son's experimentation with substances. His leaving felt like an abandonment not just by him but also by my stepdaughters, whose sudden absence further deepened my sense of loss even further.
This period of my life was so heavy with betrayal and desertion that it plunged me into a state of despair. I was confronted with a level of brokenness that brought every bit of my past trauma to the forefront, leaving me feeling utterly defeated.
In this darkness, my faith became a beacon of hope. I turned to God for guidance, finding solace and direction in my prayers and meditations. This spiritual connection led me to the people and resources that would eventually help me find my way out of hopelessness. It taught me the invaluable lesson of holding on to hope and letting go of pain, trusting in a higher power to guide my path.
Not knowing where to find help after exhausting traditional medical options and not wanting to continue down that path, meditation and prayer became my refuge, offering peace and connecting me to something beyond my pain. I came across podcasts by Lewis Howes, Mark Groves, and Tony Robbins, finding hope and understanding in their discussions on mindfulness, self-love, and personal development. Group meetings via Zoom provided a sense of community and understanding, while journaling allowed me to process my emotions constructively. These practices, coupled with a focus on nutrition and physical wellness, began to clear up the cloud of darkness that had hovered over me for so many years: the anxiety, the PTSD, the depression, and the limiting beliefs that had restricted my life.
My transformation didn't happen overnight. It was a gradual process that required me to confront and feel the emotions I had long avoided. Through journaling, I allowed myself to explore and express those deep-seated feelings, effectively releasing the pain that had been holding me back. This practice not only helped me let go of the hurt but also informed me of the strength and wisdom I gained through my experiences. This introspection was pivotal. From a place of darkness and despair, I slowly emerged feeling empowered, worthy of love, and genuinely happy. My relationships began to flourish and my self-esteem was painstakingly rebuilt from the ground up.
Encouraged by the journey I navigated and the meaningful evolution within myself, I earned certifications as a life coach, trauma-informed coach, and transformational coach. I recognized the power of my story and the healing that could come from sharing it with others.
My practice is now dedicated to helping women navigate through their traumas towards a life of healing and empowerment. I offer personalized coaching that focuses on self-love, self-awareness, and the development of healthy coping mechanisms. Through my own experiences, I've learned the importance of a holistic approach to healing—one that encompasses the mind, body, and spirit. I aim to provide the support and tools needed to foster resilience, independence, and progress past trauma.
I believe in the power of community, the strength found in vulnerability, and the real-life impact of holistic healing. It's not just about surviving; it's about thriving, about creating a life filled with love, purpose, and joy. This is the essence of the services I offer, rooted in compassion, understanding, and a deep commitment to helping others find their path to healing and self-discovery.
